As I was at work listening to the radio, yes I listen to the radio at work, they were discussing a man being unemployed and not being able to take a woman out on a date. After further discussion with my coworkers I decided to write about red flags. Everyone has those things that automatically keep you from becoming serious with someone. Whether it’s no job, no car, crazy baby mamas, married, etc…we all have them. But with the economy forever changing is it right to hold men to the same standards that we normally would? If a man came to you and had everything you were looking for..I mean fine, nice body, good teeth, polite, good convo…and he asked you out on a date, but you find out that he has no car…is this an automatic hell no? Or what if he was living with his parents?
For me as a single mother I sometimes struggle with these questions. I feel like if I have my shit together and I am doing it with two kids there should be no excuse for a man to not be able to. But reality is times are hard. With that being said I don’t think that is an excuse for men to just sit on their butts and play the woe is me card. I would not automatically dismiss a man if he doesn’t have a car or job or lives with his parents, but at the same time I would get to know him and see if he is ambitious and is actively trying to do better. You can’t fault a person for their situation if they are trying everything to get out of it. But if you notice that he is comfortable sitting at home in his Spongebob boxers playing Call of Duty all day with his mama cooking him dinner then by all means scream Hell NO and run!
The difference between a red flag and hell no is a red flag is just something to keep your eye on. Unemployment can change. Living with mama can change. Riding MARTA can change. So ladies if a gorgeous man comes up to you and asks you out on a date and you accept, think twice about dropping him when he pulls out that two for one coupon. 🙂