So one of my co workers was commenting about a Facebook post that her friend wrote. The girl was saying that basically if you have 3 baby daddies than you don’t deserve a husband. Huh? I will not curse her out like tons of people did yesterday but I will say that this is complete bullshit. Who are you to say someone doesn’t deserve happiness because they made mistakes? That’s like saying someone who used to party and drink during college doesn’t deserve good health. It’s extremely ignorant. As a woman with two, yes, two baby daddies (God I hate that term) I feel like people make mistakes especially when it comes to relationships. In my case the first time, I was young and naive and the second was just plain stupidity, but that does not mean that I can not find a husband or don’t deserve one. What constitutes someone as being deserving of a husband? Is there some status quo on who does or doesn’t deserve a husband or wife? I believe woman who automatically judge another woman off of their mistakes or situations is absolutely stupid. Instead of judging you should try to uplift. There have been several times where I think I’ll never find a guy because I do have two kids but the reality is that it happens all the time. You just have to find a man that is strong enough and willing to embark on that journey with you. The thing that upset me the most is that people are always judging others when they have never been in that person’s situation. Yes having three different fathers is a bit much but do you know anything about those relationships? Maybe she wasn’t taught to protect herself…maybe she had low self esteem and listened to whatever any guy told her…you never know. Maybe instead of getting an abortion, like so many do, she decided to own up and do what’s right. So instead of being quick to judge, inform yourself first. And further more keep your mouth shut. You don’t have three baby daddies so why are you commenting about someone who does? She could be a strong, educated woman now but all you see is that one thing. To all the woman who have 1 or 2 or even 5 baby daddies keep your spirits up. Don’t let someone else’s ignorance define your life. You are worthy of love and you are worthy of happiness.
3 Baby Daddies = No husband