So as I am dancing and living the high life surrounded by gorgeous men on New Years Eve, a startling thought comes to mind. I look around at all the beautiful, successful, well dressed men and realize that none of them want me. I am surrounded by the pick of the litter and they are all GAY! Yes, these perfect men are playing for the opposite team. As the night progresses and I begin to think about it more the next day another startling realization comes to mind. I might just have to become a gay male to find the right type of man. Now, I know how crazy this seems but take the journey with me.
When you think about today’s men, not much comes to mind. You have the deadbeats, the lames, the dope boys, the mama’s boys, the wanna be rappers at age 35, etc. Let’s just say when I think about men in general nothing excites me. Yes, you might come across one intelligent, successful, goal oriented, God fearing, drives his own car, pays his own bills, takes care of his children(if he has any), romantic, funny, sexy, classy….sorry I kinda went off on a tangent. But you get my drift. You might find one but he is either taken or he is gay. So what happened to all the good men out there? I like to say that I am extremely optimistic when it comes to things, but my experiences with the opposite sex is starting to make me think otherwise. I literally run into Mr. Wrong every single time. Seriously. My best friends can back this statement up. Whenever I tell them about someone new that I have met, they give me that look and wait patiently for the horror story. But seriously, where are all you good men at? I like to think they are slowly becoming extinct due to societies idea of a “real man.” If he’s never got into a fight, then he’s not a “real man.” If he’s never been to jail, then he’s not a “real man.” If he doesn’t smoke or drink, then he’s not a “real man.” If he’s never cussed out his baby mama, then he’s not a “real man.”
Ladies, since when did this constitute a real man? Yes, I do not want a soft man, but I do want a man that I can bring home to my parents. I want a man that I can proudly say is mine and not have to roll my eyes at him every time he comes into a room. I want a man that I can be passionate about and not someone that I am just with just because. I want a man like Jay if you will, (Jay Z). He is extremely business saavy, smart, stylish, and he still has the swag and street appeal. Men, you guys have to step up! You say you want a real woman but what are you bringing to the table? You attract what you put out.
Now, with all that said. I have not totally given up on men. I mean how can I? Somewhere there is that perfect one for me who’s smile will light up a room and he smells of Gucci Guilty or Dolce & Gabbana. (lol) Someone who will match my spirit. To find this I know that I have to look further. Walking into Kroger or Walmart is not going to bring me this type of man. I have to expand my horizons and go to places where I would expect this man to be. For me, it would be poetry readings or jazz festivals. You have to decide what type of person you are looking for and think about their interests. Become involved in these types of things and see where that takes you. It is a New Year and I am destined to get out of the “loser magnet” role. And even if I do run into a few jerks along the way, at least it will make for good reading. 🙂