This post is discussing the possibility of committed sexual relationships. Are they real or are they just something that starts off as just sex but turns into something more? Can they actually happen without feelings getting hurt or do they always end in disaster? First, let’s break down what a committed sexual relationship is. Basically it is a sexual relationship between two people and they have agreed to be nothing more but sexual towards each other. No dates, no small talk. And they are only having sex with each other. No outsiders or any side pieces. Is this a possible thing? Like always, I have asked a few people this question and got pretty much the same answer, NO. Their reason for saying no was simply that after a while someone would catch feelings and it would be all hell from there. Is this true? Is it not possible to just have sex with someone and not fall for them? I began to dig deeper into that last question. If it is suppose to be just sex, where do the feelings then develop from?
One person describe it as inevitably happening. Once you have sex with someone, it is like they connect with your soul and if it continues to happen you are bound to start feeling a certain way. My response to that is while it may be true for some, in all cases it is not. Men, do you think that every woman you have sex with you actually connected with their soul? I’m sure you don’t. To have this type of experience I feel like there has to be some sort of connection from the beginning. Some type of attraction. Every person you have sex with does not give you that “soul connecting” feeling. So what if that is the case with the committed sexual relationship? What if it is just someone that is there for you to get your rocks off and that’s that?
Another person said that it is possible but what is the point of the committed part if they are not in a relationship? This would be because 1. It is safer (STDs, etc) and 2. Once you find that person then that is it. Most people or at least women don’t want to continuously look for a man that can please her entirely so once she has found that person then normally her search is over. The committed part of the sexual relationship is to affirm to the two parties that they are only having sex with each other and no one else. With today’s society, relationships are becoming more scarce. Most women are trying to handle their own lives and are not interested in being in an actual relationship. Does this mean she does not need to be pleased sexually as well? Of course not. This is where this type of relationship would work perfectly. There is no stress of being in a full term relationship and they can both go on with their lives normally.
With this type of relationship, you definitely have to be aware of the dangers that can lie ahead. Mainly, catching feelings. Someone else stated that there should be a time limit on this type of relationship. This I definitely agree with. The more time you are spending together, the more likely it is that someone will get hurt. If you are in this type of relationship for some years, then it is time to reevaluate and see what it is that you really want. A committed sexual relationship doesn’t have to be impossible. It can work. Like with everything there has to be communication and understanding on both parties ends. Even if you catch yourself in that gray area of possibly falling in love, talk to your partner about it. You never know what can come out of it.